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The 10 Habits Of Happy Couples As Told By A Psychiatrist. #7 Is A Must Do For Everyone.

Published: 16.07.2014
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HAPPY couples: 10 habits


Dr. Mark Goulston is psychiatrist, international speaker, and best selling
author. He also happens to be an avid blogger. His post 10 Habits of Happy
Couples, has been read by over half a million people.

Regardless of the state of your relationship, Dr. Goulston provides some
interesting insight on the 10 habits that will allow you and your loved one to
keep the magic going.

#1 Always go to bed at the same time.


Remember the beginning of your relationship, when you couldn’t wait to go to bed
with each other to make love? Happy couples resist the temptation to go to bed
at different times. They go to bed at the same time, even if one partner wakes
up later to do things while their partner sleeps.

#2 Cultivate common interests.


After the passion settles down, it’s common to realize that you have
few interests in common. But don’t minimize the importance of activities you can
do together that you both enjoy. If common interests are not present, happy
couples develop them. At the same time, be sure to cultivate interests of your
own; this will make you more interesting to your mate and prevent you from
appearing too dependent.

#3 Walk hand in hand or side by side


Rather than one partner lagging or dragging behind the other, happy couples walk
comfortably hand in hand or side by side. Having walk side by side will allow
couples to share the memories with the same views They know it’s more important to be
with their partner than to see the sights along the way.

#4. Make trust and forgiveness your default mode.


No relationship is perfect but forgiving and trusting can help.
If and when they have a disagreement or argument, and if they can’t resolve it,
happy couples default to trusting and forgiving rather than distrusting and
begrudging. Work on this if you really want a happy and healthy relationship.

#5. Focus more on the right and not what he or she does wrong


If you look for things your partner does wrong, you can always find something.
If you look for what he or she does right, you can always find something, too.
It all depends on what you want to look for. Happy couples accentuate the positive.

#6. Hug each other as soon as you see each other everytime


Our skin has a memory of “good touch” (loved), “bad touch” (abused)
and “no touch” (neglected). Couples who say hello with a hug keep their skin
bathed in the “good touch,” which can inoculate your spirit against anonymity in the world.

#7. Say “I love you” and “Have a good day” every morning.


This is a great way to buy some patience and tolerance as each partner sets out
each day to battle traffic jams, long lines and other annoyances.
never underestimate the power of "I love you"

#8 Say “Good night” every night, regardless of how you feel.


Happy couples are pleased to be seen together and are often in some kind of
affectionate contact — hand on hand or hand on shoulder or knee or back of neck.
They are not showing off but rather just saying that they belong with each other.
Saying good night can save them from their nightmares.

#9 Do a “weather” check during the day.


Call your partner at home or at work to see how his or her day is going. This is
a great way to adjust expectations so that you’re more in sync when you connect
after work. For instance, if your partner is having an awful day, it might be
unreasonable to expect him or her to be enthusiastic about something good that
happened to you.

#10 Be proud to be seen with your partner.


Happy couples are pleased to be seen together and are often in some kind of
affectionate contact — hand on hand or hand on shoulder or knee or back of neck.
They are not showing off but rather just saying that they belong with each other.
bring them out and make the world know them! 🙂

Happy couples have different habits than unhappy couples. A habit is a
discrete behavior that you do automatically and that takes little effort to
maintain. It takes 21 days of daily repetition of a new a behavior to become a
habit. So select one of the behaviors in the list above to do for 21 days and
voila, it will become a habit…and make you happier as a couple. And if you fall
off the wagon, don’t despair, just apologize to your partner, ask their
forgiveness and recommit yourself to getting back in the habit.

If there was one key to happiness in love and life and possibly even success
it would be to go into each conversation you have with this commandment to
yourself front and foremost in your mind, “Just Listen” and be more interested
than interesting, more fascinated than fascinating and more adoring than

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