A data scientist has studied every text she and her husband have exchanged since their first date in 2008 up until their sixth year wedding anniversary this month.
Alice Zhao, 27, based in Chicago, Illinois, assessed a number of aspects, from the language used to the frequency and time of day they messaged one another, as their texts morphed from flirty to factual.
‘We don’t say “love” as much anymore,’ notes Alice. ”Our conversations changed from “hey, what’s up?” to, “ok, sounds good… and we stopped saying each other’s names in our text messages.’
Over time: Alice Zhao, a 27-year-old data scientist, has assessed every text she and her husband have exchanged since their first date in 2008 until their sixth year wedding anniversary this month
Settling down: The word ‘home’ is dominant as the years go by, but words such as ‘love,’ ‘fun’ and ‘soon’ are said less in favor of words including, ‘ok,’ ‘yeah’ and ‘now’
Interestingly, although Alice and her husband Ali, 29, still use many of the same words today as they did six years ago, the context of them has changed.
The term ‘love’ when they were dating fell into sentences such as: ‘Have a good flight. I love you babe.’ Post-marriage, it appears in sentences such as: ‘Hahaha. Love it!’
Similarly, ‘Get home safe and sweet dreams,’ turned into, ‘See you at home.’
And, ‘Hey, are you free mon night for dinner?’ became, ‘What’s for dinner?’
Happily married: Alice (pictured with her husband this year) studied the language used and the frequency and time of day they messaged one another, as their texts morphed from flirty to factual
From ‘hey’ to ‘ok’: Alice notes, ‘our conversations changed… we stopped saying each other’s names in our texts, and we don’t say “love” as much anymore’
While at first it may appear that their texts have become much less affectionate, Alice points out that when they were first dating, and in the lead up to their marriage, they weren’t with each other so much.
Much of their loving words, now exchanged in person, had to be sent via text message.
‘We had to check in with the other person every now and then, especially during the evening and late at night when we had no idea who they were with!’ she remarks.
‘As a committed couple, the only time of the day now that we aren’t together is during the workday, so that’s when we text.’
Indeed, in their early dating days, Alice and her husband would generally start texting each other in the afternoons at around 3pm, and then continue to text late into the night – often until 3am.
The month of their engagement, and then their wedding, saw this schedule flip. They started texting from the morning through the workday, and now that they live together, the evening texts have dropped off almost entirely.
Now, the only time of the day that we aren’t together is during the workday, so that’s when we text