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10 things you will learn When You’re In A Good Relationship.

Published: 15.07.2014
Reading time: 23 minutes

A Good Relationship


we all had serious relationships before meeting our last one.
Some last a few years and some last for few months. we thought we
knew how to be a great girlfriend / boyfriend. Meeting someone we had a serious connection
with taught us that nothing we had experienced before was real. True love feels
different than casual relationships – even if those relationships lasted for
years (often well past their expiration date!). When you’re in a good
relationship, you learn things. You act differently; you think as part of a
team, not as an individual making your way through the world. You’ll be more
understanding and accepting of your partner, instead of just getting frustrated
with them like you may have with past relationships.

#1. Misunderstandings are inevitable.

 Misunderstandings are going to happen. If you
take your partner’s words one way, then learn they meant something totally
different, don’t punish them. Let it go. Bringing it up all the time is only
going to bruise the relationship and cause communication problems later.
Sometimes what you say or do will be taken the wrong way, and you’ll get
frustrated that your partner doesn’t understand. Take a step back and realize it’s not a big deal.
Misunderstandings are made to be swept under the rug because they’re so
minor. They only become problems if you let them grow bigger and mean more
in the scope of your relationship. Be laid back and forgive misunderstandings.

#2. Learn to trust them.

 You have to trust your partner. Why would you
share your life with someone when you think they’re doing something wrong every
time you turn your back? If you don’t trust your partner to be faithful, honest,
caring, or anything else, then you’re not in a good relationship. The best
relationships begin with a deep trust, and even if problems come up (and they
will!), the trust is strong enough to keep you together.

#3. Let yourselves miss each other.

 You’re in love, so you want to be together all
the time! It’s so fun to cuddle all night
and be together all day, but when will you have time to experience
different things? When you go to separate workplaces or schools, you
experience things that will give you something to talk about later. When
you go out with your friends and your partner spends time with theirs, you
have time and space to yourself and come back to each other refreshed. You
have a chance to miss each other, and it helps you really understand the
value of your relationship. Missing someone is great because getting to see
them after that period will make you so happy and so sure of your relationship.

#4. Encourage growth and change.

 In a good relationship, both partners are
encouraged to grow and change. You have one life to live – you should explore it
to the fullest! If you want to quit your job and go back to school, your partner
should support you. If you want to try something new or go back to something
old, you should find support in your relationship. And you should give this
support in return. Encourage your partner to explore hobbies and interests and
meet new people. If you want your partner to stay the same, you’re going to have
a very boring life together.

#5. Compromising doesn’t mean you’re weak.

 Compromising doesn’t mean “giving in.” It
doesn’t mean that you’ve lost the fight. In fact, it’s the opposite. Do you know
how hard it is to compromise sometimes? You want your way because it sounds
right and makes sense to you. Your partner is way off base with their
suggestions. Take a step back and look at the argument diplomatically. What’s
the logical conclusion? If your partner is right, don’t be afraid to say so.
Accept their way, or modify both of your solutions to be half and half. The
important thing is not getting your way, it’s staying in your relationship and
helping it grow. Compromising will definitely help your relationship grow.

#6. Admit your weaknesses.

 Your partner doesn’t expect you to be a
superhero, and hopefully you don’t expect that of them! We’re all human; we all
have flaws. It’s ok to let these show. In fact, to have a stable, serious
relationship, you need to let your weaknesses be known. Your partner will be
more sensitive to things that bother you, and can help build you up in areas
where you need some help.

#7 Sometimes you can only accept things, not fix them.

 People have baggage. You have some. Your partner
has some. Can you go back and erase
all of this? Nope! You’re stuck with it, and have to learn to deal with it.
Some things are easier to get over than others, but the reality is that
sometimes, you can’t fix things. You can’t make problems go away. You have
to accept them and get over them and move on,
or else your relationship will crumble.

 #8 Forgive quickly and truly.

 Whenever you have a fight, don’t worry about who
wins or who loses. Learn from the fight – from what was said as
much as from how it was resolved. Once you learn from a fight, you can
apply that lesson to your relationship to avoid trouble later. That’s all
well and good, but you’re not done! Forgive your partner! Forgive yourself.
The fight is over, you’re past it, now let it go. Never hold anything
against your partner because the resentment
will build until you don’t want to be with them.

#9. Never expect anything.
Don’t expect your partner to read your mind, or to
bring you breakfast in bed, or to offer to wash the dishes. It’s not going to 
happen. You can’t expect anything from anyone – you have to make it known. 
Communicate. Make sure your partner knows what you expect from the relationship,
as well as your opinions on a wide variety of issues. This
will help them act considerate towards you, but still – don’t expect anything!

#10. Show your feelings.
The worst thing you can do in a relationship is play
games. Don’t tease your partner; don’t “reward” good deeds with love and 
affection. You have to make sure your partner always feels loved. You can be 
happy with them or be mad at them – it doesn’t matter – they just need to feel
loved. They need to know your feelings in the moment as well, don’t get me
wrong. But make sure you’re showing your feelings in
a way that they won’t be misunderstood (back to #1!).

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