I personally have never believed people who claim they choose to be single.
I mean, you may come to enjoy being single and make the most out of it, but
if your idea of Prince Charming shows up one day, you’re not gonna be like,
Sorry, Chris Hemsworth
lookalike, I’m busy treading a sea of not-so-eligible candidates right now.
Please come back after I’ve had a few more meaningless one-night stands and assh*le encounters.
While being single may not
necessarily be a choice, spending your time wisely as an uncommitted 20-something is.
Instead of plotting how to land a man or being envious of your friends who already have,
take this time to explore some valuable lessons that every girl in her 20s should know so you’ll be ready
for Mr. Hemsworth when he finally arrives.
1. Being Happy in Your Own Company
Being alone can be hard, but it’s
important to not be dependent on the company of others to be happy.
No one likes a clinger, and your
future boyfriend will respect the fact that you have other interests besides him
and are capable of having a good time all on your own. Read a good book, watch a
new movie, pick up a hobby or go jogging.
There are plenty of things you can do
all by yourself to stay entertained.
2. Mastering the Art of Self-Soothing
It’s great to have someone around to
take care of you when you’re sick, hug you when you’re sad, or just listen to
For the times you don’t have that,
however, you should learn to master the art of self-soothing. This is when a
nice bottle of wine and a hot bubble bath comes in. It’s always good to be able
to brush yourself off and keep going.
3. Being Happy for the Romantic Successes of Others
Green is not a pretty color on anyone,
and the older you get, the harder it can be to be happy for the romantic
successes of others when you’re still single. However, being bitter or resentful
is not going to attract the kind of energy and attention you want.
Make a conscious effort to be happy
for your friends who are getting married or pregnant, even if your romantic life
is in the dumps. Your time will come soon enough, and you will want your friends
to be happy and celebrate with you when it does.
4. Not Living in the Past
You can’t spend your single years
thinking about the boyfriends you used to have or flowers you used to get on
random Tuesday mornings.
That part of your life is over; the
sooner you put it behind you and accept that, the sooner you’ll be ready to move
on to the next stage in your life.
5. Not Idealizing Your Ex
We all have that one person who got
away, and you probably think of him or her from time to time. Don’t — it’s
useless. The chances of you two being legitimate soul mates are slim to
The chances of you perfecting an image
of someone in your mind because you’re lonely and crave familiarity? Much more probable.
6. Altering Your List Might Surprise You
Being single is the perfect time to
reassess what it is you really want out of a relationship. Are you looking for
someone to challenge you, make you laugh or live a healthy lifestyle with you?
Be clear on what it is you’re looking
for, and you might be surprised to find you’re more open to things that were
previously deal breakers.
You might realize the rich doctor type
you’ve been chasing after hasn’t actually worked out for you, and you want to
give the struggling writer a shot, instead. Be open to trying something new and
it might surprise you.
7. Recognizing the Value of Your Individualism
There’s no better time than when
you’re single to develop and appreciate your own train of thought. No one likes
a yes man, and you want to be the kind of girl who can think meaningfully about
issues and problems without having to resort to her boyfriend for his opinion
8. Settling Sucks
Yes, it’s tough to be single, but even
worse than being single is being in bad company. If you’re doing everything else
right, you should actually be having a pretty decent time finding out more about
yourself as a person, spending time with friends and family and excelling in your career.
Why would you want to ruin that by
adding someone to your life who only half interests you? Don’t bother. At no
point is settling ever a good idea.
9. How to Look Good for You
It’s hard to get excited about
dressing up when you go from being in a relationship to being single because you
don’t have anniversaries or special holidays to celebrate together anymore.
Take this time to learn how to look
good for you, not because you have a guy you want to impress. You should take
pride in your appearance whether you’re in a relationship or not, instead of
having a love/hate relationship with Ben & Jerry’s every
time you’re feeling lonely.
10. Developing Other Interests Alright, so you’re single.
This is the perfect time to take that
trip to Europe you’ve been dreaming about or finally go skydiving. Really,
what’s stopping you? If you’re bored, sad or need to put a little excitement
back into your life, do something for you.
Do something that makes you happy, for
no other reason but that. You’ll find that you become a more well-rounded person
with plenty of stories and interests to share with someone later on.
Being single is temporary; enjoy it,
learn from it and make the most of it. You’ll be one half of an old married
couple before you know it!